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Marrying a Japanese? I would say think a hundred times before you enter to a relationship that money and work is your main priority. First of all think of why you want to marry a japanese citizen?1. For stable job?
2. In japan most of the job pays you high salary compare to your country?
3. To help my family?
4. In a few months you could be rich?
These are some questions and reason banging on you mind so you could scape poverty. Giving up your own hapiness and your own freedom in a person which you don't know who he/she is and what kind of behavior he had. On my study we have different types of behavior and some of them are shown below.
Passive Aggresive Behavior
They are non-verbal aggression which evolved in negative behavior. It is one is angry with somebody but hes avoiding others to know that he is angry to somebody.
Assertive Behavior
Is generally spontaneous, expressive, honest, direct and self improving. Their relationship, emotions, in reality their whole character appears to be in perfect peace. One of their characteristic consist of : well balanced, direct eye to eye contact, open body stance, really listening, firm however relaxed voice.
Know the person well, study their behavior hes or her life style. By doing observation you'll distinguished, if the person is right for you. Do you have something in common? Know their Behavior and Manners, their culture and laws. We heard different bad experiences for some woman marrying a japanese. But in my point of view i would say: Not all of them falls on a bad situation. Always remember in every country in every races in every nation there's always good and bad person.
Marrying a Japanese?
I'll give you an example that for me bad turn into good.
Michell move to japan because of family money problems. She worked in japan for a couple of months and go back to her country after that. Looks like the money he brought is enough for her family. But suddenly routine of going to japan and going back to her country seems not enough to supply all the needs of her family. Suddenly she decided to over stay in japan working in a karaoke bar as a entertainer. Working in japan with expired visa is very hard you can't go out anytime you want.
Police might catch you and put you into jail. Everyday living in fear is the most critical moment of your life you could imagine.
She met different kind of people, she moved in a different places avoiding the police.
One day she met a person named "Umezawa". A simple kind of guy who is not very rich as we can say, hes level is in a middle class who work as a employee or in japan they call it "salary man". Because boss in japan is called as "taisho, ontai, bosu, motojime, joushi" Umezawa is not one of them. What more interesting on him? Hes behavior and hes attitude same as where Michelle came from, in other words Umezawa catch the attention of Michelle. As time goes by, Umezawa ask Michelle to move to hes place and promise to give a good shelter and all her needs. Michell has no choice because of a very tiring hide and seek situation from the police, she move to Umezawa's house. Family and her relative are so worried about her situation. Finally after a couple of years they decided to marry each other and Michell went back to her country with hes husband Umezawa. Umezawa san is a very nice guy he provide all the needs of Michelle's mother, expenses of hes brother and sister's study. Umezawa is a very hard working person he worked everyday with a maximum of 4 to 5 hours of sleep. Imagine that? He need to work hard not for him, not only for Michelle but also for the whole family. Because of Umezawa's kindness family and relatives accept him as one of a good real family as well.
Lesson
Michelle chose Umezawa for hes kindness for being a hard working person and the "respect" given to her family and not for the money not like others people thinking why "Marrying a Japanese". Always remember take control of your own life, don't let anyone take your joy, you only live once make the most of it.
I'll give you an example that for me bad turn into good.
Michell move to japan because of family money problems. She worked in japan for a couple of months and go back to her country after that. Looks like the money he brought is enough for her family. But suddenly routine of going to japan and going back to her country seems not enough to supply all the needs of her family. Suddenly she decided to over stay in japan working in a karaoke bar as a entertainer. Working in japan with expired visa is very hard you can't go out anytime you want.
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She met different kind of people, she moved in a different places avoiding the police.
One day she met a person named "Umezawa". A simple kind of guy who is not very rich as we can say, hes level is in a middle class who work as a employee or in japan they call it "salary man". Because boss in japan is called as "taisho, ontai, bosu, motojime, joushi" Umezawa is not one of them. What more interesting on him? Hes behavior and hes attitude same as where Michelle came from, in other words Umezawa catch the attention of Michelle. As time goes by, Umezawa ask Michelle to move to hes place and promise to give a good shelter and all her needs. Michell has no choice because of a very tiring hide and seek situation from the police, she move to Umezawa's house. Family and her relative are so worried about her situation. Finally after a couple of years they decided to marry each other and Michell went back to her country with hes husband Umezawa. Umezawa san is a very nice guy he provide all the needs of Michelle's mother, expenses of hes brother and sister's study. Umezawa is a very hard working person he worked everyday with a maximum of 4 to 5 hours of sleep. Imagine that? He need to work hard not for him, not only for Michelle but also for the whole family. Because of Umezawa's kindness family and relatives accept him as one of a good real family as well. Lesson
Michelle chose Umezawa for hes kindness for being a hard working person and the "respect" given to her family and not for the money not like others people thinking why "Marrying a Japanese". Always remember take control of your own life, don't let anyone take your joy, you only live once make the most of it.
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